
Practicing Kindness
       
Dear Friends Near and Far,
 
 I  hope you've all been healthy and happy. It's been two months since our  last connection, and for those of you who noticed that I didn't drop  into your mailbox last month, I truly apologize. I've been away the past  month on a family pilgrimage where I din't have access to internet.  Anyhow, a very happy Guru Rinpoche Day to you all today. This month's  Guru Rinpoche Day is a special one as it falls on a Saturday, and  therefore a "pen chu". 
 
 Today I want to relay to you all the importance of practicing kindness. Actually what is kindness? 
 
 Kindness  is the basis of happiness. Kindness is the basis of the life we live.  Kindness is the basis of the dharma. The basis of practicing the dharma  should be on a caring positive mind. So kindness is understanding.  Kindness is a thing that you don't take advantage of. It is seeing that  it is directly and indirectly benefiting you. For example, if you are  giving alms to a beggar and if you have a feeling of savior or  superiority, then think twice. Who is doing a favor to whom. I would say  that the beggar is doing a favor to you. If there is no beggar, and if  you have the motivation of accumulating merit by giving alms to beggars,  then who are you going to give to? Kindness can produce a good caring  heart. So think of kindness towards your parents who care for you, your  friends who are doing something special to you, and even to a waiter who  is serving you. Don't take advantage of that or think you own that  because it is their responsibility or that they should since you are  paying for it. 
 
 Kindness  can help you gain caring and showing kindness means you understand. So  please practice kindness. When you think of kindness towards your  teacher, you gain devotion. When you think of kindness towards your  parents, you gain respect and caring. And when you practice kindness  towards the general public, you become more positive and good hearted,  naturally. When you practice kindness towards your loved ones, your  understanding grows and so does your patience. So basically only by  practicing kindness, you are producing more positive thoughts and as a  result, improving the qualities of your life. 
 
 For  those of you who don't feel much kindness towards others, you should at  least be very kind to your ego!  The most important key is that you  need to see your own faults and to do this, you need to be kind to your  ego. Because when you do so, you'll see your mistakes and the causes of  those mistakes. 
 
 I  know that everyone has so many things to do mundanely and in their  practice as well and I wouldn't want to add anymore to that. But please  do think of my message today. I'm participating in a ceremonial puja of  longevity which goes on for nine days on a 24 hour period. I'm sitting  through the day session from sunrise to sunset and today I'm a feeling a  little down with a cold and at the moment a little tired and dizzy  while writing this to you. So think of kindness towards me for starters!
 
 Kindness  is a very positive thought which leads to a positive life and that in  turn makes your life more meaningful leaving no room for regrets and  therefore free of suffering. How kind of "kindness" in creating a ripple  of kind positive effects in our lives. 
 
 Last  but not the least, when you are having your next meal, try to practice  kindness towards the person preparing the meal, or to the one serving  you that meal, to those who planted that meal and to those insects who  died in the process and when you think of kindness in this manner, your  meal naturally becomes precious, more delicious, more unique and as a  result, makes you more positive, more compassionate and basically more  meaningful all because of just thinking of kindness! 
 
 Thinking of kindness, I seal today's GRD message with much love and affection towards all of you, wherever you are. 
 
 Sarva Mangalam,
 
 Phakchok Rinpoche 
 
  
 Note: To those of you participating in Guru Rinpoche's pilgrimage next month, I look very much forward to seeing you.